January Link Party with A Chronic Voice


January Link Party

It’s time for January’s Link Party with Sheryl at A Chronic Voice. This month’s prompts are:

January Link Party

January Link Party


2017 Reflections

2017 Reflections

I’ve been really reluctant to do any reflecting back on my 2017 or any real planning for 2018. Part of that is because most of my plans get altered due to my health issues, and there was a significant amount of altered plans for me last year.

For example, I had to stop teaching my kindergarten and first grade Sunday School students. I just didn’t have the energy any more. I also couldn’t help on the day of a fundraiser that I had spent hours working on. I had struggled for the first three months of the year with endless colds and coughs and when the day came for the fundraiser, I was down with bronchitis.

My energy level sucked, even though I was dutifully walking my dog each day per doctor’s orders.

My garden had three foot tall weeds in it. They are still there to this day, just dry now with snow at their bases. The son that helped me with gardening moved out the summer before.

Then there were family changes. My oldest daughter bought her own home, and moved into it in early June. She left the Chihuahua with me. That poor dog cried all night for two weeks straight. I couldn’t let her upstairs, because she has accidents everywhere. She used to sleep with my daughter.

Another son moved out as well, and my youngest child started his last year of high school.

I’ve spent hours throwing out clutter and filling donation bags in preparation for selling my house in 2018. We’ve done some painting and repair work. Mostly my boys have. Whenever I’ve tried to help, I’ve ended up in pain for days afterward.

Farewell 2017!


Last January, I wrote a post about choosing an intention or word for the new year instead of making New Year’s Resolutions. My word last year was FOCUS. I chose it, because I needed to make some decisions and my thinking was scattered all over the place. I’ve decided where I want to live, and when I need to apply to the apartment building, and when to put my house up for sale. I guess I did gain some focus in 2017. LOL!

My word(s) this year are LIVE LOVED. Too often I forget when I feel lonely, that I am loved by my family, friends, and God. I have many changes happening this year, and I don’t want to forget that I’m not alone, and that I’m loved. I decorated the cover of my planner with these words.

Live Loved in 2018

Live Loved in 2018

I also want to continue to aim for self-compassion, and practicing self-care in 2018. After all, no one else can do this for me.


I’m entertaining the crazy thought of collecting what I’m learning in this whole downsizing-phase-of-my-life into an e-book. I’m reluctant to commit to anything though, because of my health. I would cherish your thoughts and feedback, my dear readers.




I’m looking forward to a week long vacation at Presque Isle in Erie, Pennsylvania the first week of July. This is my favorite vacation place and looking forward to it, is a bright spot in a busy, crazy year. I love Lake Erie’s beaches, wetlands, and forests. It feels like being at the ocean with waves, yet you’re at a lake with steady winds. The whole family will be there. We haven’t had a whole family vacation in years. I’m hoping it provides many happy memories and refreshment for me and my kids.

Lake Erie

Lake Erie


Then my youngest son will be off to college, and I’ll have to figure out my new life in an apartment; just me and Dottie, my Chihuahua. And hopefully all of my online friends will still be here as well.

I hope your January has enough promise in it that you don’t feel depressed, and no pressure to perform. May we be gentle with ourselves.


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Till next time, Kathy

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    Leidamarie Tirado-Lee — January 27, 2018 at 5:34 PM

    I love, love the idea of choosing an intention/word rather than making a resolution. There seems to be so much more potential for personal growth when you focus on big-picture ideas/themes in your life rather than small one-off goals like a resolution. Hope you have a wonderful vacation!

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      Kathy — January 29, 2018 at 12:38 PM

      Nicely worded! I found my word for last year (Focus) motivated me over and over again while my exercise tiny habits fell by the wayside by spring. Thankfully we are works in progress and not finished yet.

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    Chronically Hopeful Char — January 27, 2018 at 12:08 PM

    Loved your post, Kathy! Your words for this year are beautiful – something we all need to remember whenever things get tough. Your holiday sounds like it’s going to be fabulous! Something very special to look forward to.

    Moving is hard work, but is also a very exciting thing. I moved last year and it has been such a huge blessing. I believe change is good for us in many ways. I look forward to hearing all about your new adventure this year.

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      Kathy — January 27, 2018 at 12:59 PM

      Thank you for reading and commenting! It’s encouraging to me to hear that your move was a blessing. I’m trying to look at it as an adventure. I’m trying to weed through my possessions a little each day.

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    Nikki — January 11, 2018 at 12:34 AM

    I am also aiming for compassion for self and self-care in the new year. Let’s hope we manage to focus on that! It can be tricky at times.

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    Terri — January 10, 2018 at 7:16 PM

    I love your words for this year Kathy! I think it’s easy for us to forget just how much we’re loved sometimes, especially when we’re feeling bad. Your planned vacation sounds lovely. That should give you something to look forward to during these cold winter months.

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    Kathy — January 4, 2018 at 1:11 PM

    I felt so bad for her, Sheryl. I tried everything I could think of short of letting her sleep with me. She was used to sleeping with my daughter and 4 cats in our basement bedroom and she was so unhappy at being abandoned. We have our routine now and she is fine. I worry though about moving with her. I don’t think my neighbors will like a crying dog. I’m planning on putting her crate in my bedroom so she’ll be close by. I hope that works.

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    Sheryl — January 3, 2018 at 10:36 PM

    Hi Kathy,

    Poor Dottie!! :’( And I think an ebook sounds good! You can just do a little every other day, and it will get done eventually 🙂 And I’m also happy that you’re going on a holiday soon! I hope it refreshes you in mind, body and spirit x

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